For The Guys - Live Version

It's confusing being a boy
Wanting to fuck everything in sight, sometimes it's an inner fight
Yeah some girls
They'll play with my head
They'll say they want it one minute
Then change their minds when they're already in bed

It's not fair, no really it's such a tease
These girls need to learn to clearly express their wants and needs
They change their minds, so how's a guy to know
If she's playing games, or does "no" really mean "no"

Well if you're not sure it's not rape, don't do it
If it feels a little bit rapey, just don't do it
If you're not sure that it ain't
Leave your dick right next to your taint
Yeah, if you're not sure if it's rape then just don't do it

It's confusing being a bro
Girls can fuck whoever they want
They really run the show
They lead us on, and accept our drinks
Yeah, they're asking for it, then they act surprised
It happens more than you think

It's not fair, no really it's such a tease
These girls need to learn to clearly express their wants and needs
So hold a workshop, and teach these girls right now
How to say "no" 'cause clearly they don't know how

Well if you're not sure it's not rape, don't do it
If it seems a little bit rapey, just don't do it
If you're not sure that it ain't
Leave your dick right next to your taint
Yeah, if you're not sure if it's rape then just don't do it

If you're thinking that you wanna fuck someone
I ain't tryin' to ruin your fun
All that you gotta do is make sure they wanna fuck you back
Yeah make sure they wanna fuck you back
Yeah, make damn mothafuckin sure
They wanna fuck you back

Oh yeah you're lookin' for that eye contact
And that deliberate touch that wants you to touch back
Those sighs of pleasure, ooh, the release of tension

Because, you see, it's very important for me to mention that
Some women have internalized their sexual objectification
Which can sometimes lead to some bodily alienation

You add to that the likelihood of trauma, about one in three
And you got yourself what I would call a perfect recipe
For some fear and confusion, greetin' you in that bed
Suddenly you're an intrusion in their body and in their head
A freeze response is just one reason that women might not say "no"
So before you penetrate somebody else you should make sure fo sho

Yeah the rules are very simple, and this is how you play
Don't fuck someone who ain't on board 100% of the way

Now boys I know that things can be real hard for you too
Women lead you on sometimes, yes it's true
And being disappointed is never any fun
And sortin' these things out is easier said than done
Well I'm not trying to belittle it
Here's your small violin you can fiddle it
It's just fucking consent, so deal with it
Lesson Two will be how to find the clit

I'm sick and tired of having this basic conversations
But women are still being forced into sex all over the whole nation
And I'm tired, I'm tired
When will it end
Maybe they just don't see these wounds that won't mend
What will it take
To get this to change
I bear my soul and tell my story every fuckin' day
No means no is simple enough
But yes means yes is what we need more of

So if you're not sure it's not rape
Ask how she's feeling
If it seems a little bit rapey
Stop
Figure out what's going on
If you're not sure it's not rape
Leave your dick right next to your taint
Yeah if that girl is underage
Leave your dick right next to your taint
Yeah if she's had six or seven beers
Leave your dick right next to your taint
Yeah if she's passed out on the fucking sofa
Leave your dick right next to your taint
Yeah, if you're not sure if it's rape then just don't do it